Blog / by Viv Allen
Sat, 06/01/2019 - 16:45

In our first guest blog Samantha from The Naked Midwives shares her advice to help you in the early days of being at home with your newborn. 

Parenting begins in pregnancy…. 

Monitoring baby movements, decorating the nursery, eating healthily…. this is where bonding starts. Once the baby arrives, the emotions change and it is easy to become overwhelmed. However, there are some simple things you can do that will help you in the early days of being at home with your newborn.

The first is DO NOT COMPARE….

As the saying goes ‘Comparison is the thief of joy’!  This may be the truest thing you learn.  As long as your baby is fed, clean, warm loved, trust me, they really won’t mind if you haven’t cleaned up last night’s dishes or haven’t lost your baby weight as quickly as the new mum at number 73!

Skin to Skin is important in the first hour of life with Mum but also can be a lifesaver in the early postnatal days.  

If you’re having one of those days where baby is just a bit grizzly – they’re fed and clean and you are at your wits end of what to do, simply strip baby down to their nappy and do some skin-to-skin.   The baby can hear your heart, smell you and your temperature will adapt to ensure your baby is at the optimum temperature.   And you never know, it may even help you to relax too!

Seek out your mumma tribe! 

The friends you meet whilst you are pregnant can be a lifeline when you have a new baby.  Whether these are friends from antenatal classes, breastfeeding support groups or the new MUSH groups, there are lots of ways to make new friends and with babies in tow – there is always something to talk about!   

Remember, your relationship is your first baby.

Life with a newborn can be tough and, when things are tough and you’re tired, it is easy to take it out frustrations on your nearest and dearest.  When you feel comfortable leaving baby with someone you trust, take time out for you and your partner and limit talking about baby to half an hour.  You are in this together and team work is vital!

Having a baby is a huge life shift and your emotions and lifestyle will change and adapt.  Do not be too hard on yourselves and please do seek support if you feel it is necessary.

Asking for help is a sign of strength…. not weakness.

Samantha Pantlin, The Naked Midwives